Happy New Year! We'll be just fine in 2009!

So, the world is a mess. For some reason, there is always some kind of conflict in the "Middle East" at Christmas time. The economy is a world-wide horror created by the greed of the usual suspects and their spawn. Disease, famine, atrocities, etc. are running rampant and people are complaining about what they got for the holidays. This is a very grim picture indeed.

However, I've still got My Obamatude ~ feelings of hope faith in this planet because people all over the globe came together for the second time in the past decade. The first time was to march against the worst American president choosing to force the USA and other countries into an unjust, vengeance war. Recently, the world was celebrating the fact that for the first time since Abraham Lincoln (and I'm not a fan of the propaganda taught about him), the USA has a president who actually is one of The People and who has a clue about what is really going on in the world. When have you seen other countries celebrate a presidential election in a country that was not their own and on grander scales than the country that had the election?

People want to have better, be better, do better, and make this a better planet. Good prevails over evil, although evil works quickly to destroy all that is good in the world.

There will always be those who actually believe they are better because of their skin color, their barbarian-war history to feign superiority, their religious intolerance to make everyone else unloved by the One God they claim to believe in, or something incredibly stupid along those lines. But it appears that these people are dying out and the sooner the better.

I believe that We are capable of great things beyond Our own imaginings. We must believe in the goodness that exists in all people, even those who would consider themselves Our enemies. By example, We have the power to show others how to live from the best inside of Ourselves. There will always be predictable disappointments, but as My Amazing Grandmother always said, "consider the source" and know that these people are limited by their fear = False Experiences Appearing Real. Forgive them and categorize them into the "not special" section of your life. Understand that when you deal with them in the future, you will remember their limitations and not set yourself up to be disappointed by them. Should they evolve, that will be your pleasure as well as theirs. Should they choose to remain limited, you have the power to control how their failings will show up in your life.

That being said, times ahead may be tough, but the world is not designed to be a vacuum; it is designed to be a support system ~ use it that way. Reach out to your communities with an offering before you reach out with a request. That's how good things happen. When people know that you must know how to give in order to receive and, as My fabulous Aunt Diane says, "You can't receive with a closed fist."

This is a wonderful time We are living in. It is a time of hope, of possibility, and of empowerment, if We are all willing to give even a little of Ourselves. Many people do not know what they can do to contribute to their communities. Donate instead of throwing things in the garbage. Ever hear the expression, "one man's garbage is another man's treasure"? Just because that sweater has a hole does not mean that someone who needs it does not have the knowledge of how to mend that hole. Volunteer to read to seniors or children at community centers. Volunteer to help at your local animal shelter and play with some animals who are in distress. Smile at people as you pass them on the street; that may be the only smile someone receives that day. Say "thank you," "please," and "excuse me". It's the little things that add up to greatness.

I recognize that I am great; otherwise people would not have tried to steal My identity, My work, ride on My reputation, and all of the other annoying things I described in The 12 Duhs of Christmas which actually occurred in My recent past. One of the things I feel makes Me great is My practice of looking for the beauty and greatness in others and supporting them in it. More times than not, people appreciate Me for this and are able to pass on the support to others and so on and so on.

I support you in recognizing and cultivating your greatness. We are going to be just fine in 2009.

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Fabulous & Guilty By Association

There seems to be some kind of epidemic of incredible stupidity going on these days. Too many times during the past few months - and more so during the past few weeks, I have received COMPLAINTS about people who have been seen with Me.

Let's get something straight right away. Just because a person is seen with Me does not mean that the person has anything to do with Me whatsoever. Do not base your assumptions about these people based on what you think you know about Me.

I am The PartyDomme and I invite people to join Me at My events and at events given by others all the time. That's a wonderful way to meet new people and get a chance to know them. Unlike far too many people, I know that I have nothing to lose by sharing MyPartySelf with others.

However, there have been a few times where My generosity has given stupid people opportunities to be the failures they hold onto being, which has put small dampers on things I've carefully planned. I have even taken My generosity to a fault and given My repeated forgiveness and opportunities for them to "make good" and, sadly, they have made commitments to remain screw-ups. For some idiotic reason, the people in their lives allow them to get away with this awful behavior and they have made the terrible mistake of thinking they can receive the same disservice to humanity from Me.

Most folks would stop any and all association with people who continually screw-up their situations. But as My Amazing Grandmother taught Me, I believe you should "consider the source". If you know someone is incapable of doing things they want to believe they can do, then don't require them to do such things. If there are other qualities about the person that you enjoy, you have the option of keeping them around for those enjoyments. No one is capable of being everything to you. Hedonist that I am, I enjoy what is available to be enjoyed.

The problem with this way of thinking, I have found and am receiving too many emails about, is that some people are so far gone in their delusions of who they believe they are that they choose to pretend to be completely unaware of/refuse to acknowledge that their bad behavior is causing them problems. (Note: I have made them aware of the complaints and they have continued their offenses.)

Their problems will not be Mine.

There is honor in The True Scene and Good People look out for each Other, hence all of the emails I've received.

These discourteous people are basking in the glorious glow of My vibe, My works, My friends, My social circling, and have presented themselves as the people they want to believe they are by using MY REPUTATION to open doors in attempts to create opportunities with others that I have established relationships with! Some people have gone as far as to attend and copy the workshop presentations that I have given and market themselves using My techniques and definitions - verbatim! That's plagiarism, folks! Some cultures believe that imitation is the highest form of flattery. I consider it thievery.

Clarifying further: To use My name to boost your opinion of yourself in your presentation to people you want something from is attempting to "steal" from My reputation that I built on My own merits. The fact that these offenders have nothing of merit of their own to present to others and that they need to use Me for validation is creepy. To present My techniques, step-by-step the way that I have demonstrated them, and to even copy the descriptions from My webpages is attempting to "steal" My proprietary information. At least add something of your own ~ do anything other than just replace My name in My descriptions! These actions can be considered a form of identity theft.

I always give people the benefit of the doubt and a chance to do better the next time until they prove to Me that they are unworthy. I am always supportive of people who choose to behave from the Highest Within and I leave those who don't in their zones of deprived banality.

For some reason, these offenders think that I am just going to let them get away with their transgressions against Me. Again, I addressed their actions and they chose to insist that they meant no offense, yet they have continued to repeat the same bad behaviors -- as if their lame apologies will have any meaning to Me again -- if they even bothered to apologize (then, there is that bad behavior, too which gets you tossed to the curb.).

I don't accept the fallacy that they are "unaware of their behaviors" -- especially when I have carefully detailed the problems to them in writing to make sure they have a reference for their future adventures. I pay attention to the fact that they are selfish, inconsiderate, poorly attempting to manipulate, and disrespectful all around. I shake My head and pity them; this is a serious sign of inferiority and a lack of self-love.

By now, We'd think that people know not to mistake kindness for weakness - especially My kindness. Fortunately for them, I don't waste My time with trifling losers. One of the best things about karma is understanding that not only does what you do come back to you, but what they do comes back to them, too. People with these types of usurping/invasive psyches will dig their own graves while I sit back with a glass of champagne and watch them fall into their pits. It is just a matter of time.

For the first time in My life, I'm proud to be an American

I don't care who doesn't like the fact that I didn't use the word "really" because I truly mean that now, tonight, in the wake of the landslide election of Barack Obama as President of the United States of America, I am proud to be an American.

My reasons are:

1. I never thought that I would see, especially in My lifetime, a Black President of the United States of America (anywhere but on TV) because My experience of racism in the country where I was born has been worse than anywhere else in the world that I've traveled;
   
   
2. The landslide election of Barack Obama shows that American People have evolved and are not as stupid as the world thinks we are - and that I thought Americans were, too...;
   
   
3. I am stunned that intelligence outweighed racism, sexism and the ridiculous (unsubstantiated) attacks that the GOP campaign made against a good man that had absolutely nothing to do with policies, politics, or his ability to be president; and
   
   
4. I have hope.
   

• For the first time, I feel that this is the greatest country in the world because we have "walked our talk". We have shown the world that the United States of America is truly a country where anyone can make their dreams come true. We have shown the world that we are a melting pot of cultures who can come together to make the world a better place.
  
  
• For the first time in history, we have elected a President who has the ability to understand more than just the wealthy few in our country. He looks like so many of us who are overlooked while, like so many of us, he is from such a diverse and multi-cultural background that he has a better ability to understand and communicate with the real world than any president we've ever had before.
  
  
• For the first time, I think that we have a President who can sit down and negotiate instead of starting out with intentions to intimidate - such bad behavior has become known as The American Way. I think that leaders of other countries will look at Obama and understand that this man is different from every other leader this country has had. Obama knows struggle on many fronts, unlike his predecessors, who began their journeys from places of privilege.
  
  
• Finally, we have a gentleman and a scholar for a President. Obama is polite and respectful, and we haven't seen much of that in American leadership in the past 8 years.
  
  
• Joe Biden is an excellent choice for Vice President because he does have quite a bit of experience, is intelligent and also a self-made man, and can be a barracuda when he needs to be. So, that's "good back up" for any leader.
  

At first, when I saw images of Obama with Abraham Lincoln, I was a little annoyed because people want to believe that Lincoln freed the slaves, which is not true. However, Obama, like Lincoln, is a self-made man born of humble means. Unlike Lincoln, Obama had to deal with the general racism of being a Black male and the "looks" whenever his mother and grandparents went anywhere with him in public. Take it from Me, that sux and what's worse is when the nosy peope have the audacity to ask who you are to your relatives.

I loved the images of Obama with the Reverend Doctor Martin Luther King, Jr. because the dream lives on for all of us!

It's also very nice that we will have 2 handsome Presidential leaders with beautiful families and elegant First and Second Ladies who look fabulous and are fashionable. And so are their mothers!

I'm excited and I don't expect miracles to happen any time soon. It took 8 years for the spawn of Satan to destroy this country, so I expect that it will take quite some time to get things under repair. However, I have a tremendous amount of hope and belief that international relations can and will improve dramatically, which should improve the economic situation worldwide.

No matter what, it's just good to feel good about having hope and believing in possibility again. It's good to be proud of my country and my people - all of you who voted intelligently.

Yes, We Can!

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Addendum 11/5/08

Here is an article on the worldwide reaction to Obama's victory, demonstrating the point that Obama is a symbol of hope for the majority of the world. People feel that because of his life experience, he can relate to them as well as to more of us Americans and the possibility exists for a better world. The world also sees Americans as a greater people for being able to over-come the racism this country has been known for throughout the world.

The world - really, the world (pics) - is celebrating Obama's victory because they believe that now, with him as President, cooperation can occur. The USA won't be a bully any more; we now have a leader who will listen, discuss, and work with them towards a common good.

I've got an "Obamatude" ~ the feeling of hope; love for and belief in the American people, the democratic process, and that America is a land where dreams can come true; belief in possibility for a better country and a better world; belief that the American people can, have and will continue to work together; and the feeling that good things can and will come!

From My Newsletter ~ Proud to be an American!

The following is an excerpt from My Newsletter dated November 10, 2008 which further documents My Obamabration (celebration of Obama's victory)!

I will not apologize to anyone who is uncomfortable with the fact that for the first time in My life, I am proud to be an American because I didn't think that the people of this country were evolved enough to vote past their prejudices - as I've experienced them My entire life. (The problem with most people is that they believe that everyone has similar experiences to their lives. For example, as I was having an annoying conversation with a random idiot in the subway, We passed a homeless man sleeping on the ground. This idiot wanted to argue with Me that everyone can afford $10 for a metrocard. To maintain his belief in his "rightness", he completely refused to see that destitute man laying on the ground. I took care of the situation by telling him the answers to the questions I asked about his life in the asking of them, which he could not refute, beginning with the fact that obviously, he had never gone a day without food. Fortunately, I was in a good mood and helped him to recognize that he should spend his time giving thanks for his good fortune instead of casting negative judgments on others based on his extremely limited experience of misfortune. I even gave him a hug to congratulate him in expanding his awareness. You should have seen the smile on his face!)

I have renewed hope and faith in the American people and in the world, which is celebrating Obama's victory on grander scales than We are in Our own country! (Note: These photos seem to change daily.) It has been wonderful to see people all over the world waving The American Flag instead of burning it! (Photo Note: This woman is just fabulously dressed and this is a great photo which deserved to be in this Newsletter! Notice the symmetry of color, light, and the trees on her dress and in the reflection in the glass, and the flower emblems on her bag and again behind her near the bark of the tree at its base and above the newspaper. AP Photo/Katsumi Kasahara)

I have refrained from political commentary up until now because I believe that everyone has the right to their opinions. But opinions should be formed from research, intelligent dialogue, and the ability to be flexible in one's thinking. I find very few people are capable of this approach because they are afraid that if they change their opinions, that in some way they are wrong. That's very limited, completely unfounded, and just downright stupid.

Even while refraining from political discussions to the best of My ability, the sad thing (although it is truly a great blessing for Me) is that a few people who have known Me for many years showed their "true colors", so to speak. Can you believe that someone would wake Me up on election day to say, "Didi, I know You're Black, but here is why you should vote for McCain..."? And to add further insult, their reasons were all the lies about Obama's religion and "terrorist" affiliations (which was all sarah palin seemed to have to offer in any speech she gave - and to say, "maverick"). I asked each of them, and not one of these morons bothered to visit Obama's website to read anything about his economic plan, his foreign relations policies, or anything else that caused intelligent and thinking Americans to vote Obama into office by a HUGE landslide.

What's pathetic about these stupid people is that they actually believe that they were right and wanted to "save" Me somehow. What they didn't realize - but I assure you that I made them aware of - is that not only is it offensive to assume that I would only vote for Obama just because he is Black (or Hillary Clinton because she is a woman), but the way they approached Me was as if they believed that I would "see reason" because they consider Me one of the "good ones". No matter what and how they believed they cared for Me, their racist ignorance "colors" their perceptions. They never saw Me for the person I am; they only saw what I could represent to their own selfish desires to believe that they are not racists.

Normally, I would have shred their souls and left them quivering, emotional messes. But I chose to give them the opportunity to grow. I explained how they insulted Me and everything I ever meant to them and everything they ever meant to Me. Then, I told them why they are "the ugly American"; because all they are concerned with is "their taxes" and "their rights" (even though they infringe on the majority of the population) and they believe that concepts that hint of "socialism" are a threat to "their way of life" -- and, of course, they've never bothered to research the concepts of socialism. No, like that annoying elisabeth hasselbeck on The View, they stop at what is comfortable for them to believe makes them right and any kind of change wrong, and they chant whatever lies the GOP throws at them, no matter how much evidence to the contrary they are given. (Find a history of various applications of neo-socialist doctrines on Wikipedia, where, in general, there is a good overview of socialistic philosophies in action with human error. There are no societies that conform to the pure models of capitalism, communism, or socialism as detailed by their founders, and, therefore, most of the critiques readily found on the internet are biased by using the philosophical models to prove that socialism doesn't work. Also, keep in mind that the authors of these articles are biased by their personal desires to believe that they live in "pure" capitalistic societies.)

Well, it is "their way of life" that has The United States of America in economic strife, unjust wars, hated and the target of terrorism more than ever before, more people losing their homes and jobs, and the entire host of ills caused by the "trickle-down theory" that never existed. But they can't see that because they stop their awareness at their bank accounts, their taxes, their new cars, their vacation properties, their religious beliefs against abortion and gay rights, and that YOU should adopt a child whose MOTHER cannot afford to care for - while they have adopted NONE.

The best thing from this incredible election is that America has evolved and truly is the country where the greatest opportunities exist in truth. I am revitalized with a sense of hope I have not felt in nearly 10 years. I believe that things will get better globally because for the first time, the vast majority of the world wants to work with The United States of America because We have a President who will communicate instead of attempt to intimidate.

A Side Note: I wrote to Obama twice via his website to congratulate him and Joe Biden and I asked him to adopt a puppy for The White House. The Obama family is way ahead of Me! Obama said he wanted to adopt a mutt like him, but that Malia has allergies. So, I wrote back and suggested they connect with a poodle, Maltese, or another dog with HAIR from a breed-specialty rescue service. I received 3 lovely emails - interestingly tailored to My concerns. This shows that the people supporting Obama are paying attention and are still available after the campaigning is over!

As for John McCain, I wrote to him via his website to say that he redeemed himself in My eyes with his amazing concession speech which exhibited the honor and integrity that I had come to know him for and wondered what the hell happened to during his campaign. It is a horrible shame that his own supporters disrespected him in front of the entire world while he was showing his greatness of character. That shows the characters of his supporters, but most of the world already knew this. I expressed My support for him being the "maverick" he has always been by crossing party lines and working for what is right for the American people, which gained My respect for him in the first place. I also expressed My support for him continuing to be a great man in American history and to contribute to the new administration's effectiveness. I haven't received any emails, not even the generic, "your email has been received..." Some supporters, hmm?

It is so nice to have hope again - and on a global scale! I was convinced that people are sh♫t (please pardon the expression) and the people of My country have shown that We are truly good people, willing to change and try to make this world a better place!

Now, I'm hoping that 2012 is not the end of the world.

The Importance of Rituals & Protocol

A public service publication

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While watching the 2008 Beijing Olympic Opening and Closing Ceremonies, the people with Me commented on how they liked specific parts that they always look forward to ~ like the singing of the national anthem when the USA wins a gold medal and the raising of the Olympic flag. Interestingly, one of these viewers tends to gripe about My strict adherence to protocols (specifically a dress code at My Parties). I took advantage of the opportunity to catch him in the glow of his moment to make a PERFECT analogy.

I pointed out that the wonderful feelings We get when We are participants in rituals is a HUGE part of what makes the event special; separate from everyday experiences. For example, think of how you felt hearing people sing Happy Birthday to you when you were a child, the candles on your cake, blowing them out and making a wish! Oh, and the presents! Do you remember the first time that you did not have the Happy Birthday Experience of childhood? Somehow, your birthday lost its unique "magic", the birthday experience became diminished, and you've excused it away with being "too old for all that now - it's just another day". Bah, humbug.

FYI: I consider My Birthday the biggest holiday of the year. It is the day that I was given the Gift of Life and I believe I owe it to The Great Creation to celebrate such a gift as much as I can and as grandly as I can.

Rituals instill and maintain pride, dignity, and a sense of continuity of family, faith, culture, and life itself. They are an important way for people to come together and share a common bond with the Highest Energy. Nature has Her rituals with the seasons and the Circle of Life. Each of Us has rituals ~ large and small ~ to preserve Our lives ~ from brushing your teeth every morning (or so I hope) to celebrating holidays and milestones like graduations and weddings. And then, there are funerals.

The Scene Protocols are Our rituals of celebrating Our Lifestyles along with basic respect for self and others.

Why do you want to be in The Scene? To be a part of the magic? Or to diminish the joy and beauty that Others who respect and contribute to The Scene have built by following and upholding Our protocols? If you don't want to follow the protocols of The Scene, stay out of The Scene.

ProDom/mes, it is Your duty to educate clients in basic protocols such as common courtesy (which they should have learned at home, but didn't seem to) and manners - to say "please", "thank you" and to at least, call You "Ma'am" or "Sir" and to show the same consideration to other Dominants. You may be the first and only introductions to The Scene for many people and You can do a great service to Our Community by putting and keeping people on the right track.

With the deterioration of the Beauty and Art of Fetish from the irresponsible and offensive behaviors of money-grubbers (including Hollywood and the media) and the sleezoids who only think the purpose of Fetish is for and about their genitalia, it is more important than ever to adhere to protocols to improve and preserve the Beauty of Fetish. Do your part. If you don't know where to begin, start with My Articles and use search engines for "BDSM education" to find a plethora of resources. As I always tell people, "Use the internet for something other than looking at porn..."

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